Thursday, August 2, 2012

Chick Fil Who the Hell Cares.

Mood: Calm
Listening to: Hindi music videos

Disclaimer: I am whipping out my soap box for this post.

So. Unless you pull ostrich moves for a living, you’ve probably been unable to get away from this entirely ridiculous chest thumping and grandstanding about Chick Fil A. I almost left this issue lie; but then again, sometimes I can’t help myself. Sigh. I do occasionally fall for troll issues. I hate jumping on moving trains of opinions that people have already gotten moving and jumped on en masse – it just seems…like you need attention. That’s not my motive here. I’m sick of hearing about Chick Fil A. What I’m even sicker of is hearing every god damned opinion on earth about whether Dan Cathy is a hero or a douche canoe.

You know what folks? It really doesn’t matter. He’s neither. He’s a man who happens to have an opinion on something. Just like every other Tom, Dick, Jessica, and Heather in the country. The fact that he runs a restaurant chain is also irrelevant. That doesn't make you a moral compass for anything. It's an economic choice a person made. The choice not to operate on Sunday is also not something to get in a lather about. If Chick Fil A see the loss of Sunday sales as a reasonable price for a principal they have, so be it. Since Mr. Cathy started the company, he can base it on whatever principals he deems to be correct. That’s his right as an American; he's not violating any laws with his opinion.

The genius of America (even if it is painful for those who don’t agree) is that you are free to think whatever you want. For the most part, you can say whatever you want. You are free to believe whatever religion/philosophy you want.  A bigger part of this genius is the capitalistic system. I know that some people say that it’s impersonal, soulless, and dangerous, but that’s simply not true.  Your dollars are the only true power you have to change anything in the US. Realistically, you can vote, but you will not change the system through voting.  If you so choose that you don’t like a business, just don’t go there. If enough people feel the same way, the business will go out of business. If not, you can use your dollars to support other things you do believe in or feel strongly about.

As much as it pains me to say it, Mayor of Boston, cut that shit out. I agree with your sentiment, but the answer to intolerance is not fascism. Boston is an amazing city full of people of all shapes, sizes, colors, etc. Let them vote. If people don’t want that kind of attitude and intolerance, they will vote and the restaurant won’t be able to stay open in Boston. If Chick Fil A feels that making a public stand on a religious/political issue is worth whatever economic backlash/support that comes from it, let economic voting take its course.
There’s absolutely no need to jump on the moral superiority wagon because you have an opinion or believe a certain way. I personally feel that intolerance for difference has no place in the world today, but more than that, I feel that the right to believe/stand up for what you believe in is an innate right. I would never think to tell someone like Dan Cathy that he can’t think that way or say things like that, even if I believe he’s dead wrong. It’s his innate right to have his opinion, no matter what I think of it.

Look folks, for me, the heart of this issue comes down to not being a dick to other people and letting them live life as they see fit. Ever action has a consequence, either good or bad. The misplaced desire to save people from these consequences is not beneficial for anyone. If I am going to go to hell because I believe that marrying someone from outside of my own race (just as an example) is alright, I really don’t need to be convinced I came to that decision wrongly and that I need to be saved. I’m a big enough person to think through my own decisions and take whatever consequences come along. I did not ask you to be a parent figure for my soul. It was not requested and definitely isn’t wanted.

For me, you are welcome to believe whatever you’d like, but that does not excuse you to be a dick to others. I have cousins on Facebook that make me wince every time I log on because they are so abusive in their comments about anyone who doesn’t believe the same that they do. I know that these remarks aren’t aimed personally at me (I’m not even sure if they realize this type thing may be offensive to me), but the vehemence in them bothers me. I respect their right to have a different opinion than mine, but I don’t think it’s ok to be condescending to people who don’t share the same religion/philosophy/political views/opinions on sweet potatoes as you. Everyone finds their own truth. Acting superior because you think yours is the best view or the only correct one isn’t going to convert anyone, it’s just going to make you look like an asshole.

At the risk of sounding like a hippy, live and let live people. If someone’s philosophy on something isn’t harming you, butt the hell out.



~*~MizTink~*~ said...

I just couldn't have said it any better myself. I can't say that I am not guilty of doing the same thing from time to time, I at least realize that it is wrong and hurtful and I try my hardest to not do it the next time.

There are only a few topics that really get my blood boiling and I (sometimes quickly) find myself (easily) slipping into the kind of person I never wanted to be. It is definitely a work in progress for me, but one that is definitely worth it :)

And I won't even touch the Chic-Fil-A thing.....Nope. Not even a little bit LoL I'm as sick of hearing about it as you are and have made it a personal goal to NOT write about it (unless it gets outrageous or something hahaha).

Becky said...

I almost sat on my hands because I knew it would probably just be best to keep my mouth shut, but this stuff is a special pet peeve of mine. I think judging people according to your own belief thing is very, very difficult to do - we're human. However, not agreeing and behaving like an asshat are two different things. Even I occasionally have to stop and remind myself that we can't just duct tape gag people who have obnoxious opinions. Even if it is super tempting. :-)

Stephen Hayes said...

The war against gay people is the last officially sanctioned prejudice in our country. And it, too, will fall. I'm a straight married male and I don't see how gays can possibly be a threat to me or my marriage. Get over this people! We have more important issues to deal with than sexual preference.

Becky said...

I agree with you Stephen. We really need to get over the tendency to alienate people who live life differently. In my humble opinion, gay marriage threatening regular marriage is a huge load of bull shit. It wasn't so long ago that my own marriage would have been illegal. I'm sure people felt threatened by interracial marriage too - but they got over it.

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Gossip_Grl said...

Great Posting! I agree with everyone having their own opinion. The only thing I am concerned about is that every time they feel something isn't fair or this or that, it will affect those of us who chose tradition heterosexual marriage and rules will be re-written, politics will get involved just like the whole Chic-Fil-A B/S we are seeing. :/
I say they should quickly change their W-4's at work to married filing joint to get all the wonderful benefits there is to be offered every year when the tax man cometh!

Becky said...

Thanks Gossip Grl. I really hate it when a group of people get their collective panties in a bunch and want to change something so that life gels with their reality and preferences. I don't want to live some place like that. To me, that is not what America stands for. I always thought of it as a place that had room for everyone, no matter what your belief is, not a selective entry system dependent on selected values.

Desiree said...

I clicked through because of the title of this post. A-frickin-MEN! Who the F cares? This whole thing is out of control and wasn't the guy ASKED his opinion? What kind of shit is that? You ASK someone what they think and then blast them for it?

Besides anyway, Chick Fil A will make you fat.

Becky said...

@Desiree - glad you liked it. I'm just sick of hearing everyone blow this WAY out of proportion. I've never eaten at a Chick Fil A before, but mostly because I never lived near one.